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          How having a controlling parent can leach into adulthood. Parenting is no easy feat, and different parents have different parenting styles  But in the case of controlling parents, also referred to as authoritarian or helicopter parents, sometimes their overbearing nature can result in difficulties for the child that don't simply end once they grow up but continue to affect their behaviour and impact psychologically. The researchers said the study cannot prove cause and effect. But it does add to evidence that "Authoritarian" parenting may end up doing kids more harm than good. Setting rules and structure for Family is a good thing. The problem seems to come when parents try to dictate what their children do, not only through rules, but also through manipulation. Here are some signs of a controlling parent   1.  Interfering & criticizing in nearly every aspect of the child's life. One of the tell-tale signs of a controlling ...

  Challenges on the way of New Generation  &  Framework for Positive Youth Development It is easy to look at today’s generation of teenagers and say they are pampered, oversensitive, and have a sense of entitlement. In some ways that criticism is accurate, but I think it is time to pause for a reality check. If I were given a choice  of being a teenager now or thirty years ago, I would take thirty years ago without a second thought  During the mid-1980s, adolescent upbringing was focused largely on development and behavior, their physical growth and mannerism as per the family culture. Little attention was paid to the settings in which children lived. Today, there is too much importance on the surroundings in which a child is growing up. And developing core values has taken step behind. Adolescents are in constant pressure of proving themselves best at each stage of life. Data says youth unemployment is more than 13%  today , the cost of higher ...

  Guiding Teens and Young Adults in Developing Healthy Romantic Relationships I sn’t it getting more & more difficult to find the right partner for the newer generation ? If it is arranged, the rate of separation is rising. The so called smart and intelligent GenX generation fears making lifetime commitment. Divorce rates are increasing across the world. Lawyers, therapists and academician’s world over are perplexed and have started discussing and analysing this problem, to get a clearer understanding of the factors feeding into this break-up boom.   Statistics says that around 40% of most recent marriages are ending up in a divorce. These numbers tend to make us very sceptical about the idea of getting married.   Every other day we read about some celebrity couple or someone known in our circle getting engaged or married and before you know everything starts falling apart and a supposedly perfect couple unveils into two different uncompromising individuals. Alt...

  This Generation is becoming more intelligent  and less wise The smartphone in your hand enables you to record a video ,  edit it and  send it around the world. With your phone, you can navigate in cities, buy a car, track your vital signs and accomplish thousands of other tasks. Each of those activities used to demand learning specific skills and acquiring the necessary resources to do them. A study in young adults aged 19–32 years revealed that people with higher social media use were more than three times as likely to feel socially isolated than those who did not use social media as often. Studies have shown that  increased use of devices leads to reduced quality time among family members, and increased parent-child conflicts.  People are probably better at figuring out complex cell phones and other technological innovations than they would have been at the turn of the 20th Century. But in terms of our behaviour as a society, higher IQs have not broug...

  Understanding your teen’s emotional health I found it quite shocking when I heard about a learned young medical professional who attempted suicide, about someone who was distressed by an illness that changed the facial appearance and was unable to cope with the situation, and about someone who was highly qualified, but had to compromise on the financial portfolio as could not manage the stress at work. This made me really think that in today’s competitive and fast paced world, how much importance we are really giving to the emotional well-being of our children. Should we not discuss with them that the true measure of success is the emotional maturity and well-being of oneself.   Most people between the age of 18 and 25 are in a period of transition. What psychologists call an "extended adollescence" , this time of life is the tail end of the rapid development that teenagers go through.  Much like the transitional period that is puberty, this time of life entails c...

  When you have a Special Need Child – What can be your Goal An Accomplishment that will echo through. Bhavina Patel wins the nation’s first silver in para table tennis at the Tokyo Paralympics, and by the time you all read it, you will hear a lot more. India fields their largest contingent at the Paralympics with 54 athletes competing in nine disciplines. Bhavya Shah turned visually impaired at the age of 12, due to retinal degeneration and he is a research assistant currently at Stanford University. We can keep adding such outstanding achievements. One of the biggest challenges is in navigating this type of parent-adult child relationship. Parenting children with special needs is one of the most challenging sacrifices parents have to go through. The members of a family with special needs face several different challenges that might seem unimaginable to those who come from normal families. In the case of an adult child with special needs, a longer period of support may be require...