‘You Taught Me Love’ - Establish a good mother and daughter relationship.

 

‘You Taught Me Love’ - Establish a good mother and daughter relationship.



Nature has created specific roles for parents.

There is nothing more insightful than the love between a mother and a daughter. It is based less on parentage and more on companionship.

There are some incredible moments that perfectly sums up the profound and unique bond shared between mother and daughter.

1.    When she is your first teacher even before you entered kindergarten.

2.    When she motivates you with her encouraging words.

3.    When she schools you on fashion like your very own style guru! 

4.    When she is proud of you for that first prize you won at school.

     5.   When she teaches you how to wear a saree for the first time.

6.    When she teaches you how to move on during a heartbreak.

7.    When she makes sure that you become capable to live life on your own terms.

 

What does a daughter need from her mother?

A Good Companion

A mother should be a good companion for her daughter. Whether it is discussing career or home, she should try to encourage her daughter and support her. Mothers are generally the ones whom daughters trust more as they grow up. Girls often feel more comfortable to discuss certain issues with their mother instead of father.

A Good Role Model

Do not criticize your daughter’s father in front of her all the time. Build a loving relationship with your husband and teach your girl the importance of healthy relationship. Do what you love but make sure it doesn’t hurt anyone else. Focus on your path and don’t base your self-worth on the opinion of others.

Support Your Daughter

A mother and daughter's relationship should be based on mutual love and trust. Tell your daughter that her parents will support her and stand by her no matter what happens. Support the career choices she makes and help her to build a strong network of friends. A daughter needs a mother to clarify all her doubts in life. She needs someone who is more like a friend.

Teach Your Daughter that every single body is beautiful.

Mothers should advice their daughters on various important stages in their life and let them know that they will be loved no matter what. Beauty and looks are temporary as they fade away with time. However, build your daughter’s confidence and let her know that there is more to life than external appearances and make-up. There is no such thing as the perfect body even though society suggests there is. Toddlers come in all shapes and sizes – some cuddly, some lanky – and so do grown-ups. It is okay to want to look your best, but just remember a beautiful heart is more attractive than a pretty face. Teach your daughter that looking good is not the only thing which matters. Focus on your health, not your clothes size.




Look for the positives in every situation.

Try to find something good in every situation. Even the really bad days can teach you something, can help you grow, can make you stronger and wiser. Don’t be afraid to fail. Without failure, you cannot move forward. And without failure, you cannot learn. Failure is invaluable, even though it can hurt. These life lessons may not be pleasant, but they shape who you are.

What will the Daughter do for her Mother?

Then, there comes a day when daughters give back to their mothers and do their bit by educating them about things that they might not be aware of - helping them to use an app, introducing them to new-age social media platforms, encouraging them to do things they love, sensitizing them about intimate care, which she might not be comfortable about talking to anyone else. On multiple occasions Sudha Murthy of Infosys has credited her daughter for waking her up in life and help her find a purpose in life. I have experienced how my daughter motivated me while I was not confident of writing my exam paper for master programme




Let’s face it, being a female is hard work. Although, there are so many positives that come with it, there is also the pressure to be perfect. And raising little girls in a society obsessed with body image and looks can be difficult to say the least.

So, to all the mums, daughters and grandmothers out there, this is for all of us. These are some facets we need to pass on to our daughters, to ensure they remain happy, healthy, caring and confident in the many years to come.

By

Dr. Mona Shah

Occupational Therapist, Clinical Psychologist

 

 

 

 

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