What are the issues faced by today’s teenagers?

 

What are the issues faced by today’s teenagers?

Only a few decades ago, the most common problems teens faced were finding a career path and starting a family. In fact, the word “teenager” wasn’t even a thing until the 1920s. Today, however, teens are facing problems unique to our time.

Teenagers face real concerns between 13 and 19 years of age, on a daily basis as this is the most awkward growth stage of their lives. During this time, teens are exposed to some overwhelming external and internal struggles. They are expected to cope with hormonal changes, puberty, social and parental forces, work and school pressures, and feeling of misunderstood.

When I see parents of teenagers at my clinic the conversation is mainly complaints about raising teenagers and managing their tantrums. What we need is a paradigm shift of who our teens are and a clearer view of our role as parents.

1. Acceptance

Even the most self-assured person struggles with acceptance from time to time. However, teens have it especially hard, due to their lack of maturity and perspective. The best thing we can do is offer parental acceptance. A recent study showed that there is a significant link “between children’s psychological maladjustment and perceived paternal and maternal rejection.”

Help your teen feel accepted by assuring them of your unwavering love and guidance—no matter what.

 2. Stress      

The pressures and expectations teens face from school, parents and peers, can create ongoing patterns of stress. This brings us to the next big concern being stuck at home and away from regular life adds to that feeling. It’s imperative that we help them deal with life’s stresses with a positive intent.

3. Depression and Anxiety

Perhaps, more than ever before, teens are battling depression and anxiety. Some studies show depression is linked with social media. Regardless of the source, it’s crucial for parents to watch for the dangerous warning signs of depression and anxiety. 

 4. Self-Harm

Unfortunately, youth today are faced with more temptations than we ever dreamt possible. Not only are they enticed by substances such as drugs and alcohol, often they are tempted to self-harm. It is imperative, today, that parents open their eyes to this issue. 

5. Bullying

Teens everywhere are facing torment from their peers on a daily basis. It is important for parents to work closely with schools, clubs, and workplaces to ensure they have anti-bullying policies in place.

 

 6. Desensitization

Sex, drugs, and violence have been part of the teen culture for many decades. However, it seems like kids are becoming dangerously desensitized. It is important to understand why kids do drugs, and look at ways to stop the desensitization toward violence and sex. The prevalence of dangerous sexual behaviours has exploded in recent years. Communication is KEY for parents of teens. Although these types of discussions are uncomfortable, they are absolutely necessary in the twenty first century.

 7. Disrespect

Teens are seeing their favourite movie stars and sports figures controversially displaying anti-authority messages. Standing up for things you believe in, and teaching them to respect are both very important. Parents have the primary responsibility in not only portraying respect but also requiring it from their kids.

 8. Trust

Teen’s today struggle with trust issues. Many of them don’t feel like they can turn to their parents for advice. This leaves teens extremely vulnerable. We can help them by encouraging them to talk to other adults that we trust.

9. Motivation

It used to be that teens could not wait to find a job, get a car, and build a life of their own. Today, however, teens seem to struggle with motivation and the confidence to move forward. It could be due to the fact that teens have become more reclusive in their virtual worlds. Or, it may be that parents are not as proactive in encouraging independence. Whatever the cause, we can motivate our teens and help them make important decisions regarding their future.

 We cannot ignore our parental duties. Even though they are in their teens, they still need us, just as they did when they were little. Cell phones, computers, and other gadgets that they spend time with cannot give them the nurturing they need. Discuss and establish rules for chores, homework, driving, dating, sex, and drug and alcohol use. Keep talking about all these issues.

 Let them know that you don’t always have all the answers and you are not always right. Listen to their opinions and offer help whenever needed. Be graceful enough to thank, appreciate, and love them at every possible occasion. Punishing teenagers does not really work, but disciplining teenagers does. Make sure your policies are helping instead of hurting. Be willing to listen to their point of view. Give it a good thought before you trash it. An encouraging and supporting attitude goes a long way.

 Look out for signs of stress, anxiety, lack of concentration, poor eating habits, poor oral and personal hygiene, disturbances in sleep, and plummeting of interest in social activities, and address them immediately. If your teen shows any signs of anxiety or depression, get them help immediately.

 

Most importantly, let them know that you care!

By 

Dr. Mona Shah

Occupational Therapist , Clinical Psychologist